ME TOO

Hello!  I have been really inspired by all of the women sharing their stories of sexual harassment and/or assault. I want to share this story and I have only told a few people about this story. I remember being a ninth grader in Biology class during my first semester of ninth grade when this happened. I was so naïve and innocent that I didn’t even realize that I have been sexually harassed. I suffered from PTSD after high school and this is one of the incidents that contributed to it (I know this due to counseling).

I remember sitting down at my desk and I was working. This bully (who bullied me throughout high school) had his crotch pressed up against my desk. This bully when he thought nobody but me would notice made sexual motions towards his crotch. For decency sake, I will not go into further detail but it was very vulgar. Myself and another student were shocked at such a vulgar display. I wish I could tell you that I stood up for myself and that I told someone. However, I would be lying if I said that. I just put my head down and continued working I NEVER SPOKE ABOUT THE INCIDENT until 2017.

To make matters worse this bully secretly had a crush on me (more on that latter) but he was ashamed and angry that I was a black girl who was not part of his group so he took out his anger on me. He was also angry that his “friends” would tease him about how “I liked him” and he would even play dumb and act like he would never go out of his way to speak to me.

Put yourself in my position for a minute. Being bullied sucks but imagine the person who bullied you being the same person who had one point sexually harassed you.  I was a young black girl getting consistently bullied by a racist with a (low-key) black-girl fetish who had sexually harassed her. Honestly, it is no wonder that I got PTSD… I never coped with my feelings until after high school.

Today is the first day that I publicly spoke out about the incident and I am doing this to take away the shame that comes with being sexually harassed and/or assaulted. It is so sad that almost every woman has been sexually harassed and we need to fight this.

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