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Saturday, January 7, 2017
Herbivore Botanicals Discount
Clear skin makes makeup look SO MUCH better! I love @herbivorebotanicals !!! One of my favorite exfoliators is the Blue Tansy AHA + BHA Resurfacing Clarity Mask !!! I love it so much that I have a discount for my readers!!! Use the code KAYKAY to get 15% off of your purchase!!!! Here is the link to my favorite product: https://goo.gl/6EN43u
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Friday, January 6, 2017
Black in Vermont: Have "Friends" and be Fake or have less Friends and be "Real"
Disclaimer: This series is a reflection of what it was like to be a black woman in Vermont. I learned a lot from my time in Vermont as well. This is in NO WAY stating that everyone in Vermont is racist or holds the same views. This post explores how it was like for me to live in a "liberal" homogenous state. This series is not only about heavy and sad topics but will also discuss fun topics as well. Lastly, if I mention an incident DO NOT assume that the person I am talking about is a Vermont native etc. Again, the title of this series is "Black in Vermont" because I am a black woman who was living in Vermont at the time. This series was started because many people I did not know were asking me about my experience in Vermont. These people were young black people who wanted to know how life would be in a liberal state with virtually no diversity. DO NOT READ TO DEEPLY INTO THE TITLE...IT IS JUST A TITLE LOL!
Disclaimer: Please pay attention to the links sprinkled throughout this post, they are there to educate you.
While living in Vermont I met ALOT OF COOL PEOPLE! Some of these cool people were Vermont natives and then some of these people were new to Vermont like me. However, I also meet ALOT of problematic people, to say the least. These people were problematic because they practically sprayed microaggressions around like they were spraying perfume, were blatantly racist, or thought they were "so liberal and progressive" when they really HAD A LOT OF WORK TO DO.
When I was living in a small town and going to a small school I felt like I had to keep the peace and be professional. In addition, since I am a black woman (especially one from an area like Metro-Detroit) living in a predominantly white area, I did not want to come across as being an "angry black woman" or the "ghetto black girl from Detroit." Despite these fears, I just never did the fake (thank you Detroit for teaching me to keep it real). Instead, I would talk in class if someone said something ignorant, only hung out with people that I genuinely liked, and did not let people disrespect me. However, I did have to pick and choose my battles ( I had to protect my mental health). This meant that I did not scream at the guy who asked me, "how are black woman able to drop dat ass" or growl at the guys that referred to me as a "hot black girl."
I encourage anyone who is going to be in a similar situation as myself to keep it real. Do not make problematic people feel comfortable ... they never make you feel comfortable! Instead, keep it real and say #byeFelicia to the losers who will only like you of you are a docile black person. I mean ... who needs that negativity anyway.
Disclaimer: Please pay attention to the links sprinkled throughout this post, they are there to educate you.
While living in Vermont I met ALOT OF COOL PEOPLE! Some of these cool people were Vermont natives and then some of these people were new to Vermont like me. However, I also meet ALOT of problematic people, to say the least. These people were problematic because they practically sprayed microaggressions around like they were spraying perfume, were blatantly racist, or thought they were "so liberal and progressive" when they really HAD A LOT OF WORK TO DO.
When I was living in a small town and going to a small school I felt like I had to keep the peace and be professional. In addition, since I am a black woman (especially one from an area like Metro-Detroit) living in a predominantly white area, I did not want to come across as being an "angry black woman" or the "ghetto black girl from Detroit." Despite these fears, I just never did the fake (thank you Detroit for teaching me to keep it real). Instead, I would talk in class if someone said something ignorant, only hung out with people that I genuinely liked, and did not let people disrespect me. However, I did have to pick and choose my battles ( I had to protect my mental health). This meant that I did not scream at the guy who asked me, "how are black woman able to drop dat ass" or growl at the guys that referred to me as a "hot black girl."
I encourage anyone who is going to be in a similar situation as myself to keep it real. Do not make problematic people feel comfortable ... they never make you feel comfortable! Instead, keep it real and say #byeFelicia to the losers who will only like you of you are a docile black person. I mean ... who needs that negativity anyway.
Thursday, January 5, 2017
Paridaez Discount Code !!!!!!!
I LOVE Paridaez !!!! Use the code KAYKAYSWAY to get 10% off of your purchase!!!!
*Disclosure— The post may contain affiliate links. By clicking and shopping, you help support Kay Kay’s Way and allow me to continue reporting on all things beautiful and fashionable.
*Disclosure— The post may contain affiliate links. By clicking and shopping, you help support Kay Kay’s Way and allow me to continue reporting on all things beautiful and fashionable.
Tuesday, January 3, 2017
What is Conventional Beauty?
A month ago I was riding in an Uber and my Uber driver told me that I was "so articulate." This may seem like a compliment... but it is not, it is a microaggression to call a black person "articulate." If you are confused as to way this offensive then please READ THIS and READ THIS and READ THIS and READ THIS and finally READ THIS. What I learned in Vermont is that I WILL NEVER MAKE RACIST, BIGOTED, OR SEXIST people feel comfortable. Therefore, I told him that I do not speak any different from any other person which made him backtrack his statement lol. Finally, this man told me that Lupita Nyong'o was not conventionally beautiful but she was beautiful. The way he said this seemed VERY problematic to me. What is conventional beauty? I immediately challenged him. I told him (in classic SJW fashion) that people who do not have blond hair, blue eyes, and Caucasian features are just as beautiful as those who fit his definition of "conventional beauty." For example, Jessica Simpson and Lupita look very different from one another but they are BOTH conventionally beautiful because they are BOTH beautiful ... period!
When he said this about Lupita it was plain to me that he was implying that it was surprising for a dark-skinned African woman to be seen as pretty. If any of what I am saying so far confuses you them please READ THIS.
Attitudes like this are why there are many women of color with low self-esteem issues and I refuse to tolerate this. I am going to be using my platform to continue to empower women, start discussions, and ultimately heal wounds.
When he said this about Lupita it was plain to me that he was implying that it was surprising for a dark-skinned African woman to be seen as pretty. If any of what I am saying so far confuses you them please READ THIS.
Attitudes like this are why there are many women of color with low self-esteem issues and I refuse to tolerate this. I am going to be using my platform to continue to empower women, start discussions, and ultimately heal wounds.
Saturday, December 31, 2016
Things I am Happy to Leave in 2016
- Vermont
- Junk food and anything not approved by the DASH diet
- Salt
- the past
- Not consistently wearing sunscreen
- Small towns
- Rural life
- Annoying classmates (not everyone was annoying, actually lots were cool as well)
- Fake liberals and low-key bigots in my classes ( not everyone was like this, lots were not, but lots were)
- The election of 2016
- The Alt-Right
- #Make America Great Again (sadly Donald Trump is still relevant so he did not make the list)
- Explaining my humanity to racist people
- Annoying people
- South Royalton, Vermont
- Making bigots comfortable
- Being WAY TOO WOKE!!!! Everyone needs some sleep lol
- Not having a set schedule
- COONS.... Cannot stand a coon!
- Tomi Lahren
- Lena Dunham and other fake feminists like her who don't care about women of color
Goals for 2017
- Grow closer to God by developing a consistent prayer life
- Exercise daily
- Continue to stick to my DASH diet
- Continue to make great grades in my LLM program
- Continue blogging and writing
- Develop my blog professionally
- Grow my blog
- Wear Sunscreen
- Only look to God for validation
- NEVER think about the past or let it hold me back
- Accomplish projects and grow in my career!
- Keep nursing my hair back to life lol! My hair was REALLY NICE AND HEALTHY until I damaged it in the spring of this year. It has been getting better but ... I have high standards lol.
- Be very financially fit!!!!
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